I have read Anne's DF and followed this forum. They have saved my marriage and returned a new happiness to our home and relationship. Thank you!!!
BUT, what about the kids? For me, I can see it in DW. I have setup boundaries. I have been educating myself on how best to reflect and communicate when the "game" starts. But, what can they do?
Last night I went to play hockey (some good me time) where I got a call from DW that one of my sons was misbehaving and that I needed to talk to him. After listening, and looking at all the clues I learned that DW was late in getting to the pharmacy and was in a torrent mood (this has happened before. There is a steep withdrawal if a dose is missed). So, it was not the boy's fault. It was the "game" coming to the surface. I would have seen it if I were there and could have helped reel it in.
How can I help them when I am not there? They don't know about DF. Should I explain it to them? Should I have them read the book?
I haven't been able to find any local counseling that understands DF. We tried local counseling for 7 years and we were miserable! It wasn't until I found Anne's DF, to finally identify the depression and to talk about it openly that enabled us to come around. If counseling is the answer, how do I find one that gets it? Or, has anyone had any experience in broaching the subject directly with their kids so they can help themselves?




