Things have reached a new low, after 14 years together my wife has tonight walked out of the house to go stay with her parents & insists things are over.
We had been on holiday for a week & got back tonight – I will spare you the detail but my wife was immediately agitated by something concerning the owner of the adjacent land to us (which I think it would be safe to say would be a non issue to 99.99% of people although my wife would strongly disagree). By now it’s safe to say in my opinion my wife is obsessed by hatred for the person who owns the field next to us & I can’t see how she will ever get passed it – of course all this is my fault see my previous posts for the story.
Tonight my wife told me if I couldn’t sort out all her problems she would leave me – I tried to be rational & sympathetic but pointed out I can’t control everything & I may not be able to achieve all she wants. She went into a massive rage about how I never listen, if I did we wouldn’t be in the position we are & that if I was a real man this could still be sorted.
I still love her but in my opinion her mental state is deteriorating & well what do you do – if I suggest she’s mental (politely of course) she accuses me of dismissing her problems alternately I have to pretend all her concerns are reasonable then try to fix them, I reiterate her concerns are nowhere near reasonable.
I am wondering if this is the beginning of the end – she still won’t acknowledge she is unreasonable or might have mental health issues (in her view she’s fully sane & sees everything in a rational light) & I know if she won’t seek treatment this probably doesn’t get any better.
I still want to try to work this out but I do wonder if I just will at some point have to accept I can’t make everything right again. Sorry to say but I think my story is heading the wrong way & down a road others on this board have trodden.
Do you just have to accept to a degree you are a passenger in the journey? I think I might, but on the other hand it seems like a convenient way of opting out of trying to fix things.




