Hello,
My fiance (24) and I (27) have been together for 6 years. We both grew up in the same town. For the first 3 years of our relationship, she lived with her father and I lived separately with my parents. I moved to another city in the 4th year of our relationship while she remained living with her father. In the 5th year of our relationship she moved to the city I was living in and we moved in together. We got engaged last year and had been planning our wedding, however my fiance broke up with me two weeks ago. She was diagnosed with severe depression the following day. In the last week she has moved her things out of our home and is now living with a friend. She now wants to discuss dividing up shared items. Despite saying that she needs space, she has messaged me a number of times and called once over the past week to see how I am. She also messaged me last night to say that she is a terrible person who hurts people who she loves.
My fiance has been acting erratically at least since we got engaged and exhibited signs of depression throughout that time. She had exhibited signs of anxiety for years prior to that though it had become the norm and was just what she was like from time to time. She has variously explained (verbally) to me over the last few months that she needs space, feels trapped, needs time apart, wants to go on a break and wants to breakup. Over the same period of time, however, she has also said (usually in writing) that she loves me, can't wait to be my wife and thanked me for always being there for her. She has been anxious about every aspect of her life over the past few months (work, friends, our relationship, the future) and has had a number of anxiety attacks.
I would be grateful for any advice on our situation and how I might best reconnect with her. We had a very loving relationship at least until one year ago, however she now seems to be a different person.
Many thanks.
My fiance (24) and I (27) have been together for 6 years. We both grew up in the same town. For the first 3 years of our relationship, she lived with her father and I lived separately with my parents. I moved to another city in the 4th year of our relationship while she remained living with her father. In the 5th year of our relationship she moved to the city I was living in and we moved in together. We got engaged last year and had been planning our wedding, however my fiance broke up with me two weeks ago. She was diagnosed with severe depression the following day. In the last week she has moved her things out of our home and is now living with a friend. She now wants to discuss dividing up shared items. Despite saying that she needs space, she has messaged me a number of times and called once over the past week to see how I am. She also messaged me last night to say that she is a terrible person who hurts people who she loves.
My fiance has been acting erratically at least since we got engaged and exhibited signs of depression throughout that time. She had exhibited signs of anxiety for years prior to that though it had become the norm and was just what she was like from time to time. She has variously explained (verbally) to me over the last few months that she needs space, feels trapped, needs time apart, wants to go on a break and wants to breakup. Over the same period of time, however, she has also said (usually in writing) that she loves me, can't wait to be my wife and thanked me for always being there for her. She has been anxious about every aspect of her life over the past few months (work, friends, our relationship, the future) and has had a number of anxiety attacks.
I would be grateful for any advice on our situation and how I might best reconnect with her. We had a very loving relationship at least until one year ago, however she now seems to be a different person.
Many thanks.




