Me and my boyfriend have been in a relationship for nearly year and been best friends for nearly five and in all the time he has suffered with depression, considering we are both only nineteen that is a pretty significant amount of time to be depressed in his whole lifetime.
It has been confirmed recently he is clinically depressed and I'm finding it very hard to deal with. I don't know how not to make his depression worse but still get what I want out of our relationship and make the relationship successful for the both of us. At the start of our relationship he tried to kick his medicine and do it by himself but he was very overly emotional and found it hard to deal with and went back to medicine to cope again. I believe he has gotten deeper and worse in his depression as he is definitely pulling away physically and emotionally and in effect I become extremely needy and paranoid. Which causes many arguments as I my anxiety and insecurity within the relationship is becoming stronger.
He has recently taken a brilliant turn and stopped dabbling in illegal substances as he definitely used them as a vice to numb and forget about his feelings and he's ready to stop drinking as regularly as he used to, which is a huge achievement for him and I'm so proud of him. But I feel we need to take more steps to effectively improve his mental health and our relationship. I still don't know how to deal with the depression and not take some of his actions to heart when it might be because of his depression.
Obviously like all of you I want it to disappear instantly but it's too deep to go away anytime soon, I just want some help with coping mechanisms I guess and stop being so paranoid and upset all the time.
Thank you for reading, I hope some of you can talk to me about this
It has been confirmed recently he is clinically depressed and I'm finding it very hard to deal with. I don't know how not to make his depression worse but still get what I want out of our relationship and make the relationship successful for the both of us. At the start of our relationship he tried to kick his medicine and do it by himself but he was very overly emotional and found it hard to deal with and went back to medicine to cope again. I believe he has gotten deeper and worse in his depression as he is definitely pulling away physically and emotionally and in effect I become extremely needy and paranoid. Which causes many arguments as I my anxiety and insecurity within the relationship is becoming stronger.
He has recently taken a brilliant turn and stopped dabbling in illegal substances as he definitely used them as a vice to numb and forget about his feelings and he's ready to stop drinking as regularly as he used to, which is a huge achievement for him and I'm so proud of him. But I feel we need to take more steps to effectively improve his mental health and our relationship. I still don't know how to deal with the depression and not take some of his actions to heart when it might be because of his depression.
Obviously like all of you I want it to disappear instantly but it's too deep to go away anytime soon, I just want some help with coping mechanisms I guess and stop being so paranoid and upset all the time.
Thank you for reading, I hope some of you can talk to me about this




