My ex has been texting me asking for really random thing, to barrow the blender, for the cleaning ladys phone number, for the trainers number, to barrow a book... I have stopped responding to the texts and it made me feel pretty guilty. This brought me to something important about the relationship and about relationships with people like this, many times in the relationship I was faced with moments of choosing between doing what I thought was the right thing to do for the person you loved, but this right thing was often not really the right thing for ME. It was another extension of my good will, pushing me further beyond a limit I did not even know was there. So the right thing to do, in the case, it would be so easy to send the cleaning ladys number, so easy to lend the book, but it would not be right for me, it would another time that I did something that seemed right but would end up messing with me, it just feels like more asking of me.
Has anyone ever felt this?
Has anyone ever felt this?




