My partner of 11 years has depression, and we have been aware of it as a couple for about 7 years. He is on medication, but it is the 3rd one and still no noticeable changes. Last March he moved out. My mother had died only 4 months before. It has been a rough year. He said that he needed to be on his own. He has never lived completely alone; he is 43 and I am 49. I have, so I respected this need, even though I knew it wasn't really going to change anything for him. He has never been mean to me and still isn't. His depression tends to manifest in isolationist behavior but not angry or unkind. We both still love each other. We see each other once a week and text or talk daily.
I know that what is going on is because of his depression and we talk about it. He is not in therapy now. I guess my real question is has anyone out there had their depressed partner move out and the relationship survive and eventually move back in together. I know a fair bit about depression and am reading more all of the time. I love this man, and he has never been unkind to me. He is just such a lost soul. He has never cheated on me and I have no worries in that regard. I am still the person he calls first when he has news or wants to share stuff. I am willing to fight on, but I could use a little encouragement from someone who has been there because most of my girlfriends just say they love me but think I deserve better. I know that "better" is not a guarantee and I love my man. Any advice or shared experience would be appreciated.
I know that what is going on is because of his depression and we talk about it. He is not in therapy now. I guess my real question is has anyone out there had their depressed partner move out and the relationship survive and eventually move back in together. I know a fair bit about depression and am reading more all of the time. I love this man, and he has never been unkind to me. He is just such a lost soul. He has never cheated on me and I have no worries in that regard. I am still the person he calls first when he has news or wants to share stuff. I am willing to fight on, but I could use a little encouragement from someone who has been there because most of my girlfriends just say they love me but think I deserve better. I know that "better" is not a guarantee and I love my man. Any advice or shared experience would be appreciated.




